I started my IVF journey about a year ago. After a failed IUI, we went straight into IVF. In September of 2024, we did our egg retrieval, and we were really fortunate that we ended up with seven embryos—five of whom are euploid and the other two are low-level mosaics.
So, we went forward with a transfer in November of 2024. It was fully medicated, and when it failed, we were completely caught off guard and devastated. We had thought that transfer was it—that we were finally pregnant after almost two years of trying—and we just expected that positive beta.
Because I am not a tester (I will not test at home before a beta), we waited for the call. When it came back negative, I was completely floored and just knocked off my feet.
After that, I had to wait until January to do my next transfer, which was also a fully medicated transfer. Around the same time, my husband had actually had his right Achilles rupture and repaired on New Year’s Eve, and my transfer was scheduled for January 6th. So, it was kind of a crazy time for us.
We did our next transfer, but we were a lot more hesitant to be hopeful. That one failed again, which was still pretty devastating. After that, I went on to pursue testing, because I had been pushing for testing for endometriosis this whole time—I was pretty certain I had it.
I did the Receptiva biopsy and found out I do have endometriosis. I had that removed in May of 2025. Once it was removed, we were able to move forward with another fully medicated transfer in June of 2025—and our baby boy stuck.
We named him Harvey, and we were really excited. It was the first positive pregnancy test we had ever gotten.
Then, on my 30th birthday (June 30th), I started bleeding. I knew then that this could be a really tough pregnancy. It turned out I had an SCH—a subchorionic hematoma.
When we went for our ultrasound on July 8th, he was measuring six weeks, zero days, and I was supposed to be six weeks, three days. Their biggest concern, though, was that they didn’t hear a heartbeat.
When we went back on July 11th, he had only grown to six weeks, one day, and there was still no heartbeat. So, I ended up having a D&C on July 17th.
I am currently in the second week of eight weeks of Lupron suppression and hoping the next modified natural transfer works.
Last week’s episode 🎧: One of our favorite things to do on the pod is share listener stories. Last week’s episode featured a powerful mix of IVF journeys—from donor eggs and miscarriages to successful transfers and everything in between. Listen now on Spotify and Apple.
Small ‘j’ joys 💜:
We love birthstone jewelry as a way to honor the babies we’ve lost. These necklaces make a beautiful gift for yourself or someone navigating miscarriage.
This post on self compassion 🫶
A movie that has us in all our feels.
This TikTok video about s*x while trying to conceive.
And finally, our weekend mood:
